This so beautifully captures the essence of parenting, especially: "It is a child’s job to explore. It is a parent’s job to provide safe boundaries for child exploration, to give limits that provide a sense of security, not restriction. It’s rather an impossible assignment, parenting. I’d offer that, for those of us who choose it, … Continue reading Letters from camp.
I’m quite sure how I feel about reblogging my own blog post, but this one seems to have resonance for both of my professions. — Audrey
The Beauty of the Known
It has always seemed to me that people I care about are more attractive to me than strangers.
Looking for confirmation of this, I found a couple of interesting videos. One was titled “How to Make People Think You’re More Attractive Than You Really Are.” Leaving aside the issue of how one assesses one’s own looks, I was interested to find that instead of talking about plastic surgery or makeup, it recommends such things as standing up straight, making eye contact, and smiling.
It seems that the idea of a known person appearing more attractive applies even to oneself, as the video below shows. Four ordinary women received professional makeovers and posed for…
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Well said, Julie!
Today I went to visit a client who had an amazing birth last week, and she did something that many women do: She apologized for not being very nice during her labor.
Let me paint the picture. This was her second baby and she was hoping to have a vaginal birth after a previous C-section, so she was already pretty stressed. Her labor was progressing quickly, though, and she stepped out of the car like only a woman in transition does – like she was walking gingerly through a minefield.
We quickly got her set up in the delivery room. Her contractions were now 3 minutes apart and strong. She handled all of that wonderfully. But she didn’t have enough left to say ‘please’ or couch her requests in niceties. I would have described manner her as honest and efficient. She was getting it done.
And then the apology. I…
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Three simple–though not necessarily easy!–tips for supporting a partner during labor.
Over the years, I have seen so many loving partners at births. But loving doesn’t always translate into supportive.
Many partners are unprepared for the realities of an average labor: the lack of sleep; the stress of the hospital; watching the woman you love going through intense emotional and physical strain. And often these partners’ natural inclination is to want to fix it all, to make it go away.
Of course, that isn’t possible, or even preferable.
Instead, there are some simple things that birth partners can do to offer real support when it is most needed. Even though they’re easy to describe, actually doing these things can be a challenge. But they’re worth trying, because they make all difference. Here are three:
- Pay attention. Over the many hours that a typical birth will take, this can be one of the hardest things to do. But try to watch…
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I'll admit, I like simplicity. Why go out and get a complicated piece of equipment when something simple will do? That was the message delivered a few weeks ago by Dr. Jane Morton when she spoke to members of the Nursing Mothers Counsel. Now in private practice with Burgess Pediadrics, Dr. Morton conducted research at … Continue reading Using the tools at the ends of your arms
I got a call recently from I mom I helped about a year ago when her son was a newborn. She worked hard to resolve her early issues and breastfeeding has been going great since the then. But now that her baby is a year old, she's feeling lonely. In her peer group, most moms … Continue reading The loneliness of breastfeeding the older baby (or toddler)
"I don't have enough milk." In my work as a birth doula and a peer counselor with the Nursing Mother's Counsel, I probably hear that lament a few times a week. Often, the statement is more accurately "I'm afraid I don't have enough milk." Talking more with the mom usually reveals that the baby is … Continue reading How much is enough? Thoughts on milk-making and motherhood
Dictionary.com lists three definitions for the word "vacation." The third is the simplest: "freedom or release from duty, business, or activity. We have to amend the definition, however, when talking about parents of young (and even sometimes older!) children. Unless you leave the kids with Grandma or a neighbor, vacationing will be very different from … Continue reading Cure for the common vacation